And that's how my life changed:
I was visiting my Uncle in Colombia and as we were having a few beers watching the sunset, my Uncle began telling me of a hot little mamasita that he was seeing. As he finished describing the shape of her body, he turned to me and asked: "how's youngster life treating you? Getting more girls than you know what to do with?"
I took a deep breath and began a long rant, describing my disgust with girls who didn't appreciate nice guys like me but always chose the bullies! How nothing I was doing ever got me close to even a kiss, and how tired I was of being "friend-zoned" all the time!
-"You're not still a virgin, are you!?" My Uncle asked.
I was ashamed to say that I was.
-"So, you think that the girls are treating you unfairly?" My Uncle asked.
-"Yes!" I shouted.
-"Why do you think that is?"
-"I have no idea! I have done everything that everyone keeps telling me is the right thing to do and still I haven't even gotten a kiss!
-"And what's the 'right' thing to do?"
-"Treat girls with respect, show them that you care and be nice..." I barely finished my sentence when my Uncle interfered:
-"There's your problem!"
-"What"? I still didn't understand
-"This 'nice guy' stuff that you're talking about, there's your problem."
-"I shouldn't be nice to girls?" I was confused.
-"So what is it that I'm doing wrong!?"
My uncle saw how clueless I really was. It was going to be a long conversation.
-"Go to bed, we'll talk in the morning." He put out his cigarette and went to bed, leaving me with the biggest anticipation of my life!
Needless to say, I couldn't sleep all night...
My Uncle finally sat down with me the next day and we talked for almost seven straight hours. When he had finished talking I had finally understood... and it was so simple...